New Year’s Resolutions Are A Fluke: Here’s What You Can Do Instead

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The chants of “new year, new me” are growing louder by the hour. The endless posts on how this new year will be the ultimate year are flooding every social media platform. As usual, people are treating the next 12 months as an opportunity to become who’ve they’ve always wanted to be. To complement this desire to suddenly change, resolutions are inevitably made. All of this, thanks to the unnecessary weight people give to New Year’s Day.

New Year’s and resolutions seem to go hand in hand. It’s almost a given that you’ll hear people expressing their resolutions at the beginning of the year. Many times, people will talk about how their resolutions will finally work out. Yet, they’ve been saying the same thing for five years already. So, what’s going on? Is it that a lot of people have a problem committing to their resolutions or any life-improving decision? Truly, I think it’s beyond that. Society puts too much emphasis on it, without any true justification. Resolutions just suck. However, rather than focusing on resolutions, there are other things you can do. 

Forget resolutions. 

Quite frankly, people nowadays are not giving themselves a fair chance to reach their goals if they decide to attach it to these so-called resolutions. Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with setting goals for yourself, but why are you waiting all year to get your goals started? You have 365 days to work towards your goals, but somehow they’re only valid during the beginning of the year. How does that even make sense? I get it. Reaching any type of goal is difficult. Failing to accomplish it is probably worse. 

But that’s just it. Goals or resolutions aren’t meant to be figured out quickly. You might fail a few times, but everyday is a new day to try it all over again. Just don’t wait an entire year to start all over. So, don’t beat yourself up too hard for gaining weight or not getting enough clients for your business in its first year. Keep waking up and chasing whatever will satisfy your life. 

Resolutions (or anything for that matter) should never consume you.

Oftentimes, the common resolutions involve gaining an exorbitant amount of money, transforming yourself to have the “perfect” body, and to travel the world. Of course, you also have those asking for the New Year to help them develop virtues, such as kindness, forgiveness, and patience. These are all fine New Year’s resolutions, but the importance placed on them is what’s troublesome. Some people seem to be so consumed by them that they try to fulfill their yearly resolutions in a few weeks. Perhaps that may show dedication to some, but the momentum usually dwindles down quickly. Resolutions have a tendency to drive excitement. Well, as one would think they should. But it shouldn’t be all about them, especially if you’re only going to direct your efforts to accomplish your desired goals at the beginning of the year. 

 

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Pace yourself.

One of the reasons why people fail to complete their resolutions is because they don’t pace themselves. They try to get it done as quickly as possible, even though the whole concept of resolutions is to do it throughout the year. Just because you’ve set yourself to finish something, doesn’t mean it needs to be treated with immediacy. Sometimes, it’s okay to take your time with things. By taking your time, you’re allowing room for any organic growth, whether being in your personal development or in any project that you’re trying to finish. At times, we aren’t able to see the flaws in whatever progress we are trying to obtain because we are so focused on the endgame. Unfortunately, anything that is ever rushed usually doesn’t have the best results. 

Be realistic. 

Anyone who sets goals for themselves wants to accomplish them. Otherwise, goals would just be set in vain. However, you have to be realistic with yourself when it comes to choosing your goals. 

Let’s take those who have vouched to be their own bosses by the end of the year, for example. In order to be your own boss, you’d ideally make sure to have savings for at least two to five years, in case there are many rainy days along the road. You also want to make sure you understand how to manage finances, create spreadsheets, and understand any other logistics it takes to run a business. Making money is all fun and games, until you have to strategize your moves methodically for the sake of your success. Neglecting the education needed to be your own boss can be detrimental to your desired goal of being your own boss as well. 

Now, did all of that sound complicated? Because it is. Do you think that can be accomplished in one year? I mean, you might be able to if you don’t sleep or do anything else with your life. But then again, that’s not ideal. Instead, try learning skills needed before jumping into such a big decision. Break down your goals into smaller sections (of course, by keeping the end goal in sight). Choose only one or two things at a time to develop, too. It’s not good to overwhelm yourself into doing everything at once. It usually doesn’t work out in your favor either way.  I do want to stress that you might not always get to your final goal the first year, but if you continue inching towards it with each move, then you’ll eventually get to it. Getting things done correctly is what you should always focus on and nothing more. 

You have to understand that most resolutions are unrealistic. They’ll somehow drive you into believing that you have to get it done immediately, but that’s not how it should go. Take your time. Let it all unravel as it’s supposed to without having anything or anyone rush you. Also, don’t overpack yourself with goals. Learn your stuff and then you just might be able to accomplish what you’ve set for yourself.