Learning To Heal Through Sacred Sexuality

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Sacred sexuality is an entirely different way to connect with desire and erotism, allowing you to access deeper levels of your feelings, sensations, and energies and ultimately go beyond who you really are. 

This path is simple but profound. From Hindu tantra practice to tantric Buddhism it is about wholeheartedly celebrating the sacredness of our bodies and desires while bringing quality to full consciousness and shared expression of pleasure. 

Sacred sexuality can help release shame, trauma, and blockages around sex, rescuing the transformative power of your erotic energy and leading you to feel pleasure more intensely with your body. 

This approach to erotism includes a holistic, more unscientific perspective, where sensuality also becomes a door to the divine, creating a more intimate experience of the present moment based on the understanding that the whole process is an individual responsibility, as stated by sacred sexuality scholar Rufus Camphausen, in his Encyclopedia of Sacred Sexuality. 

What is Sacred Sexuality?

Sacred sexuality or tantric sex is a sexual practice that is part of the ancient spiritual path known as tantra. The word tantra is a Sanskrit term that translates as “woven.” It refers to weaving or joining the male and female forces within all of us, heaven and earth; the human body with the transcendent, collapsing polarities; therefore, we are not talking about gender but energy. 

The purpose of tantra is to discover a union with life beyond the separate sense of self. The sacred or tantric sex, an aspect of tantra, is seen as a door to that transcendent truth once we learn to take advantage of it.

The simplest explanation of tantric intimacy is that it is about aligning the fire of your sexual energy, passion, and desires with your heart, your spirit, and a sense of goodness in your life. When these forces come into balance and harmony, interpersonal magic sparks begin to fly, and sex becomes a healing process, empowering and transcendent. 

For Camphausen, sacred sexuality is not synonymous with romantic love. He asks his readers to move away from that concept and embrace experiencing the body through oneself or with others and to see sacred sexuality as a source for discovering the inner self and “exorcising” one’s demons.

What Happens to our Body During the Practice of Sacred Sexuality?

Tantric sex involves a wide range of erotic activities, not all of which involve the same penetration and physical stimulation of the erogenous zones that most people associate with sex. 

A typical tantric session involves intimacy and delicacy in sex, which includes hugs, caresses, and, above all, being present in the body and focusing on energy movement between the participating bodies.

Sometimes, during tantric sex, you barely move, and attention is focused on a space of devotion and meditation. If you relax and take it easy, or speed up and slow down the action, you can have sex for hours, and the enjoyment can continue to grow. 

People with penises can also explore practices such as borderline (getting closer to the orgasm and holding it in or moving back), which increases their ability to last longer and retain more pleasure before turning the orgasm around.

That said, all sexual energy can be tantric when done with awareness. Tantric sex can be immersed in organic, intense, and primitive spaces, where the body’s instinct takes over, and you are blinded by pleasure. 

Breathing is fundamental to tantric sex; people can use breathing and consciousness to move sexual energy throughout the body, awakening their capacity for pleasure rather than focusing only on the genitals.

The Commitment of Tantric Sex

There is a wide variety of expectations around sex that pressure us to act in a certain way in front of a situation or a partner, as well as routines and habits that keep us trapped in a sexual routine. Tantric sex seeks to break away from those beliefs to start again with a beginner’s mind, redefining sex by making it more intimate, connected to the body, and with the possibility of foreplay, rather than a transactional action towards orgasm to check. When you set aside goals, there is an infinite space for discovery where the range of what can be done is broadened. 

And whatever you are currently experiencing in terms of climax and orgasm, it can be much more intense through tantric sex. From more powerful orgasms to longer-lasting, non-ejaculatory, and multiple orgasms for men and numerous types of orgasms for women. It also allows deep states of surrender, visionary states, even forms of oneness with your partner or inner self.

Sacred sexuality can also be an integral part of the path of personal awakening and evolution. Several spiritual masters have admitted that orgasm is an experience that allows us to glimpse divinity because there is a regular fusion of the inner self in those moments of communion.

Benefits of Tantric Sex

According to Leslie Grace, RN, and founder of Ritual Tantra, these are some benefits of tantric sex and the practice of sacred sexuality:

  • Getting more of what you want in sex
  • Releasing sexual blocks and shame
  • Awakening your sexual energy to flow freely within your body
  • Accessing your greatest pleasure and desire
  • Discovering full or multiple body orgasms
  • Experience a new level of connection in the couple and with yourself, from intimacy and love.
  • Achieving more extended, more relaxed, and quality sex sessions.
  • Improved personal communication.
  • Holistic mind-body-spirit connection with yourself and your partner